A new dad is refusing to sign his baby son’s birth certificate after seeing the name his girlfriend had chosen for their child.
The man met his partner shortly after she came out of an eight-year relationship, and he says he got the impression that she was “never really over” her ex-boyfriend when they had first got together.
He says she seemed to move on over the years and when her ex-boyfriend moved back to the same city she didn’t seem phased, and had even introduced the two of them.
The couple have now been happily together for four years and recently welcomed their first child, with the man saying they had argued back and forth about names for a while but eventually settled on one they were both happy with.
After their son was born, his girlfriend and baby were back home and safe when the dad went to sign the birth certificate – only to see his partner hadn’t entered the name they had agreed on.
Instead, she had entered his first name and middle name to match those of her ex-boyfriend.
When he tries to talk to her about it, he said she explained it was a “spur of the moment thing”, or she’ll say she’s too exhausted to discuss it.
He wrote on Reddit: “She’s been fobbing me off for a few days now so in the end I told her, calmly, that I’m not signing the birth certificate until we change the name back to what we agreed.
“This caused a bit of a row with her and she’s now refusing to talk to me until I sign the certificate and agree to the name.”
He said that he’s at a loss over how to handle it, adding: “I’m now plagued with doubt and wondering if I should get a paternity test or whether she’s still in love with him.”
After asking for advice, one person replied to say: “For sure, insist on a paternity test before signing the birth certificate.”
A second said: “Dude paternity test immediately. This is such a red flag.”
And another advised: “She is being very shady, naming the baby after her ex is not OK. Get a DNA test and don’t sign the birth certificate until paternity is established and she changes the name to the name you both agreed upon.”